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You're Not A Failure: A Lesson From My Therapist On Faith



Dear Friend,


When life has lifed, it can take a toll on you. As a result of too many difficulties, setbacks, disappointments, and the like, it can be hard to find the courage to bounce back. More specifically, it can be hard to have faith in yourself again.


I've encountered many people who don't trust themselves. I get it; you've made bad decisions in the past, and you don't want a repeat year. No one wants a repeat year of defeat, but what if you won't? What if you actually learned your lesson and are now equipped with the wisdom to make better decisions? What if you've grown?


Unfortunately, you'll never know if you don't try again. Trying again does not signal that you are a failure; it signals that you may have misstepped, but now you're capable of proper foot placement. You must work to divorce your identity from the act.


Here's what I mean: A few months ago, my therapist and I worked through a disappointment in my life. I was beating myself up about it because I saw the signs in the situation, but I turned a blind eye. You know, I wanted to believe that what I was seeing was not the truth. Long story short, my eyes did not deceive me, and what I thought I witnessed was the truth.

In that situation, I wasn't disappointed in the outcome; I was disappointed in myself. I was disappointed because I overrode my internal knowing, made excuses as to why I should linger, and once again decided to ignore it.


What my therapist said in that moment really hit home for me. She stated, "Briana, this failed, but you're not a failure." Whew. Talk about freedom. I don't know about you, but I don't like failing at anything, and when it does happen, I am distraught. However, her ability to redirect me at that moment really helped.


Just because something failed doesn't mean you're a failure. Yes, you took an "L," but the "L" is the beginning of the lesson, not loss.


I tell you this story to encourage you to try again. You're better now, stronger, and wiser. You are capable of making hard decisions with God.


Unfortunately, the fear of a repeat year will always steal opportunities from us. I want you to give yourself a chance to succeed this year. Give yourself a chance to smile.


You were created to have an abundant life, but your lack of faith in yourself will always steal your true potential.


Let's decide to have an uncommonly prosperous year together.

I'll see you on the other side of your decision!


xoxo,

-B

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11 avr.

“You must work to divorce your identity from the act.” 🔥

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Dr. Bri
Dr. Bri
14 avr.
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Yes, that's the key!

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